Is this abuse?

Does your partner ever….

• Insult, demean or embarrass you with put-downs?

• Control what you do, who you talk to, or where you go?

• Look at you or act in ways that scare you?

• Push you, slap you, choke you, or hit you? 

• Stop you from seeing your friends or family members? 

• Control the money in the relationship? Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money? 

• Make all of the decisions without your input or consideration of your needs? 

• Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away your children? 

• Prevent you from working or attending school? 

• Act like the abuse is no big deal, deny the abuse or tell you it’s your own fault? 

• Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets? 

• Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons? 

• Attempt to force you to drop criminal charges? 

• Threaten to commit suicide, or threaten to kill you?

If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you may be in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. Click here for "What now?" information. The National Domestic Violence Hotline also has further information you can read about what abuse looks like compared to a healthy relationship: